I wish I could tell you there are 12 easy steps to follow that will take you from beginning to end on the self-discovery process.  Yeah, I wish.  If I can make that happen I might as well promise you I can sell you the magic pill, it will make you younger, smarter, thinner, firmer and tan too!  If you realize it’s a process then welcome to the process or better yet, welcome to my process.  Self-discovery is a process it’s not something that just happens overnight, it is something that happens daily over time.

Sure there are things that happen, change actually happens in a heartbeat, but how long it took to get to that moment is a whole different story.

I began my conscious self-discovery process 4 ½ years ago when in the first day of therapy as I’m crying about my divorce my therapist says “It’s about having a relationship with yourself.”  To be honest I didn’t know what she was talking about.  I’m thinking, uh does she want me to masturbate or something because if that is the case, I’m out of here.  It’s funny to think about that moment now because the truth is, life is about having a relationship with yourself.

It’s about knowing and understanding your emotions.  Learning how to make improvements in areas you want to change, asking yourself better questions.  I had no idea when I walked into therapy how helpful it was going to be.  Did you know that anger is a secondary emotion?  Well at the time I didn’t, when you’re angry it’s usually due to some other emotion.  With me it was all about fear.  Now when I get angry I ask myself “What are you fearful of?” this usually leads me to the truth of the situation.

There are lots of questions I ask myself now and I’m going to continue blogging about them.  Below are some of them that I’ll be talking about in blogs to come: